Should men get facials?

Another recent trend: men pam­per­ing their bod­ies. Randy Stin­son cri­tiques the trend, call­ing it the fem­i­niza­tion of the Amer­i­can male. This line cri­tiquing Tony Glenville’s Top to Toe made me chuckle:

For instance, Glenville advises, “A spe­cial occa­sion calls for spe­cial treat­ment, and tak­ing the time to visit your hair­dresser, go for a mas­sage, and have a facial scrub will all add to your con­fi­dence.” In another sec­tion, he tells us, “At sport­ing events, whether cheer­ing your team on or par­tic­i­pat­ing your­self, the wrong footwear can com­pletely skew an out­fit.” I won­der if Chip­per Jones knows this?

Stinson’s point is that pam­per­ing one­self encour­ages the sin of self-absorption. “We do not need pret­tier boys. We do not need softer men. What we need is a church cul­ture that will call boys and men to lives of self sac­ri­fice as exam­pled by the pic­ture of Christ in who loved the church and gave him­self for her to his own neglect and sac­ri­fice.” [Read the arti­cle]

5:1 There­fore be imi­ta­tors of God, as beloved chil­dren. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave him­self up for us, a fra­grant offer­ing and sac­ri­fice to God.

But sex­ual immoral­ity and all impu­rity or cov­etous­ness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filth­i­ness nor fool­ish talk nor crude jok­ing, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanks­giv­ing. For you may be sure of this, that every­one who is sex­u­ally immoral or impure, or who is cov­etous (that is, an idol­ater), has no inher­i­tance in the king­dom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of dis­obe­di­ence. There­fore do not become part­ners with them; for at one time you were dark­ness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as chil­dren of light (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), 10 and try to dis­cern what is pleas­ing to the Lord. 11 Take no part in the unfruit­ful works of dark­ness, but instead expose them. 12 For it is shame­ful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. 13 But when any­thing is exposed by the light, it becomes vis­i­ble, 14 for any­thing that becomes vis­i­ble is light. There­fore it says,

Awake, O sleeper,
and arise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.”

15 Look care­fully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, 16 mak­ing the best use of the time, because the days are evil. 17 There­fore do not be fool­ish, but under­stand what the will of the Lord is. 18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauch­ery, but be filled with the Spirit, 19 address­ing one another in psalms and hymns and spir­i­tual songs, singing and mak­ing melody to the Lord with your heart, 20 giv­ing thanks always and for every­thing to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, 21 sub­mit­ting to one another out of rev­er­ence for Christ.

22 Wives, sub­mit to your own hus­bands, as to the Lord. 23 For the hus­band is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is him­self its Sav­ior. 24 Now as the church sub­mits to Christ, so also wives should sub­mit in every­thing to their husbands.

25 Hus­bands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave him­self up for her, 26 that he might sanc­tify her, hav­ing cleansed her by the wash­ing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to him­self in splen­dor, with­out spot or wrin­kle or any such thing, that she might be holy and with­out blem­ish. 28 In the same way hus­bands should love their wives as their own bod­ies. He who loves his wife loves him­self. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nour­ishes and cher­ishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are mem­bers of his body. 31 “There­fore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mys­tery is pro­found, and I am say­ing that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 How­ever, let each one of you love his wife as him­self, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Comments (2)

  1. mike wrote::

    Hm.… I dunno. Apples and oranges? I very much want as “men with chests,” as Lewis would call it. I am just uncom­fort­able with the male/female dichotomy that Stin­son uses to get there.

    Val­ues may man­i­fest them­selves dif­fer­ently but I tend to think the prin­ci­ples are gen­der free. Thoughts?

    Wednesday, August 6, 2008 at 12:55 pm #
  2. rlew wrote::

    I had a sim­i­lar ques­tion: Men pam­per­ing them­selves is self-absorption while women pam­per­ing them­selves is… (a) accept­able because they’re women, (b) also self-absorbtion, or © ____ ?

    Wednesday, August 6, 2008 at 3:28 pm #